Midlife crisis is real: how to tackle it?
Some psychologists don’t believe that “midlife crisis” even exist. But psychologists do recognize the feeling of severe angst upon realizing that over half one’s life had been lived and ahead lay the grave.
When a person reaches middle age and still, has not reached the desired goal, it seems almost certain he/she has missed life goals and there is little hope to turn things around in the late hour.
It is frustrating that most of life has been in vain. People cannot accept the situation and show symptoms of the crisis.
Some research shows a significant drop in happiness between the ages of 40 and 50. There is evidence that people experience a midlife psychological ‘low’ and low feeling can start as early as 40 years.
I have seen how midlife crisis hit people. I had worked as a life coach before I became a business consultant. I counseled many people over 50 years. They described to me their remorse feeling when they have reached this age.
Those people I have counseled started having strong jealousy feeling in their middle age.
They spend more time spending analyzing other people’s past than thinking about their own future, remember that the achievements of others are based on right choices they made many years ago. Their lives could be different if they made the right decision.
If you always think about someone else’s future and start planning yours, your crisis will be worse.
The middle-aged people are not often happy with their jobs when they find out that their classmates are very well established. They are not satisfied with their wives either. They find the wives of their friends more attractive.
Sometimes they are overwhelmed by the time we have left to live out their dreams and create a dream life. This often results in a very strong desire for the thing they dreamt about. Tho start with a new career or something new by giving up that what they have, can create a bigger crisis in their life.
In the old days when the life expectancy was low, the midlife crisis hit men aged 45–64 years. Now midlife does not start before 55 years.
There are some visible signs of the mid-life crisis:
When an older man starts looking girls half of his age, it is an obvious sign of middle age crisis. When an aged woman suddenly starts using excessive makeup and color on hair, it is a first symptom of the crisis.
When the midlife crisis would start that depends on one’s lifestyle. This crisis hit more or less everyone. Some can escape relatively easy and some are hit hard.
People start looking for their old school friends on social media. They start investigating how they are doing these days and start comparing their own positions with theirs. They even consider a career change at this late age.
The midlife crisis is defined as the transition of identity and self-confidence that can occur in middle-aged individuals, typically 45–64 years old. ( in present-day 55–70 years range
You should carefully handle the midlife crisis. Tempting to your girls, avoiding your wife could lead to a divorce. If in the process of completing your successful friend, you try to change your career, you may end up losing your present job
The midlife crisis can hit both men and women. But it hits mainly men.
Unlike youth age, it is impossible to have a new start-up. It is time to prepare for your retired life. If you screw up, then that is like checkmate. You can hardly get a new wife, job or most importantly a new life. So don’t let midlife crisis hit you.